An Important Lesson Learned the Hard way
So angry right now. So I am a member of the Utah Kink group on Fetish zone. We've had a member there who is now facing legal trouble from a scene where he went out of his range of skills and abilities and ended up injuring the sub. I cannot stress the importance of the following statement:
IF YOU DON'T KNOW A SKILL SET, DON'T REPRESENT YOURSELF AS KNOWING IT JUST FOR THE SAKE OF PLAY.
A good Dominant or submissive for that matter communicates to their partner an accurate account of what their experience is and both partners mutually agree before the scene is even set up what expectations are and what risks are involved. As a Dominant in the scene, I make it very clear what I will be doing and what my limitations are. It is our RESPONSIBILITY as Leatherfolk to let a submissive know when we are not able to help them explore something and help them to find a responsible and educated person to help them with that. You will build a better rapport with your sub and the rest of the community if you do that. You by no means are expected to know and be fluent in every aspect of play so don't try to be.
I promise that no Master will ever claim to know everything about anything. Please please please be careful in your play to keep things fun and safe. If you have any questions don't be afraid to ask someone in our community. We will never judge you or think differently of you for wanting to learn.
This poor guy now has possibly hundreds of thousands of dollars in reparations he will need to pay because he was not up front about his abilities to his partner. Accidents do happen, and we try our best not to let them happen, but please do what you can to be safe and understand and communicate the risks with your partner. I'd hate to have this sub scared to try another scene again because some ass hat decided to portray himself as more experienced than he really is.